Laura Antoniou

My fantasies have never been safe ones.

— Laura Antoniou

Fantasies aren't reality, I know, I know, I know. Except when they are. Except when you make them into reality.

— Laura Antoniou

And fuck this, I didn't come out of years of fantasy, rescuing myself from a toxic parent and guilt-tripping myself through anti-sex feminism, politically correct lesbianism and socially-programmed homosexual activism so that someone else can make my goddamn sex life into a slogan.

— Laura Antoniou

Safe, sane and consensual — what do those words really mean?Assimilation, that's what.

— Laura Antoniou

What is happening to my sexuality?John Preston was right. SM has become a nice, sweet alternative to heavy petting, and the leaders of this SM "community" want us to be the Elks or some other animal-named civics association, gathering to sell expensive clothing and raffle tickets, congratulating ourselves on how nice we are.

— Laura Antoniou

This used to be about sex. The literature of my people was pornography, filled with cries for mercy, drama enacted on people without prolonged negotiation, partners engaged in a dance in the middle of a bonfire. Now, it's 300-page manuals about how to make sure nothing bad will happen.

— Laura Antoniou

What goes on when people overfetishize safety is that they're relapsing into that old frame of mind that what we're doing is BAD.

— Laura Antoniou

I can hear the whines — "But it's BAD to do these things without consent!"No fucking kidding. It's bad to conduct medical experiments on people without consent, yet I don't see the AMA adopting the slogan, "Healthy, Helpful and Consensual!"

— Laura Antoniou

Fact is, I'm tired of being told what's OK for me. I'm fucking tired of multiple safewords, and sometimes I'm tired of safewords altogether. I don't want to negotiate everything to death, I want to be surprised, or surprise someone. I want to be afraid — I want to cause genuine fear.

— Laura Antoniou

There are times when I just want to walk through a room, grab that girl, slap her hard and make her cry. Push her down and fuck her mind over twice as hard as her body. Sometimes, I want to be that girl.

— Laura Antoniou

My fantasies have never been safe ones. Don't fuck with me, unless you understand that.

— Laura Antoniou